7 Steps to Get Out Of Your Own Way + Host Your Summit with Leanne Chesser
Is fear holding you back from hosting your summit? It can be scary to do something big and new and put yourself out there in front of hundreds of people.
In this episode with Leanne Chesser, we'll cover 7 simple steps to shift your unconscious stories and host your first online summit with confidence.
I'll let Leanne take it from here!
Host Your Virtual Summit with Confidence
Getting in your own way is anything that stops you from doing the thing you want to do, or achieving the thing that you want to achieve. I call them symptoms of fear.- perfectionism
- procrastination
- people-pleasing
- keeping busy
Lack of Time as a Symptom of Fear
Time management and organization are often a symptom of the fear. We try and attack it at the behavioral level. We know we need to deal with the fear symptoms, and we try, but it doesn't work because all that underlying stuff that's at the root isn't being dealt with.
Then we just feel more frustrated. We feel more stuck. We start to feel worse about ourselves, and like we're never going to get out of this loop of stuckness, I call it.
All this is created in our subconscious minds, and it directs the narrative that's going on in our heads, that chit-chat, that self-talk that's in our heads about how we're not good enough. Then that directs our physiology, so we have feelings, and physical symptoms like fear symptoms that then dictate our actions, or our non-actions, and that's where we get our results.
Then that feeds back into the narrative, and it's this cycle of stuckness that just keeps going around and around until you actually deal with it at that underlying level.
Create Sustainable Results and Move Forward With Your Goals
When I work with people, what I do is I help them become aware of, and then deconstruct, all that stuff that's going on in the subconscious, and in your self-talk. We peel that away and then create a new cycle, which I call the cycle of sustainable success.
There's the cycle of stuckness that I just talked about, but the opposite of that is when you change what's in the subconscious, you have a new narrative in your head, you create a new story, and then you have a different physiology, different physical symptoms, and feelings from which you act.
At that point, you can then act in the way that you want to be acting.
- You can host the summit.
- You can go live.
- You can hit "post" on that controversial post.
- Whatever it might be for you.
Then you get different results, and it again feeds that narrative, and it goes around, and around in an ever progressing growth cycle.
Leanne's Step-by-Step Philosophy of Change Process
In the checklist, I outline a seven-step process, and it's based on a philosophy of change. That philosophy of change is acceptance, awareness, accountability, and then adaptability. The seven steps in the checklist kind of flow from that.
Step 1: Say It
Step one is called, "Say it," and I'll explain what I mean by that. We all have stuff that happens to us in our lives. We have things that influence us, and things that we experience in our lives, and from all of that we form perceptions, or stories, our interpretations in our head about what those things mean, who we are, how the world works, and where we fit in the world.
Then from there, we form beliefs and then expectations of ourselves. All of that is what plays into that self-talk narrative in our heads, and so the very first thing is to accept that everything is a perception at work.
All my steps start with S, and so that's why I'm calling it, "Say it," so we have to say, or accept, that everything is a perception, and that's where it starts. Just becoming aware of that process and that everything that we've experienced, or seen, or heard, we've made an interpretation of which may, or may not be accurate.
Step 2: See It
The next step is to see it. To see your own version of that, because that process happens for everybody. Each of us has our own particular perceptions. They become aware of what those are, what your own stories are, and that's a large portion of the work that I do with people is to dig into that stuff, and figure out what's going on for you specifically.
That's the start of the awareness piece, which is becoming aware of your own stories.
Step 3: Specifically Identify
The next step after that is to specifically identify, and listen to those stories. They speak to us every day in multiple ways. We can hear it in our thoughts, we can hear it in our feelings, we can hear it in our physical symptoms; such as clenched in our jaw, or tense in our shoulders, things like that. And we can see it in our behavior.
When we become aware of and tuned into listening for those things, then we can get more clarity around what's really going on, and what those stories are, so that we can move to the next step.
Step 4: Spot It
The next step is to spot it. You spot or identify the roles you play when you're living in those stories. I guess as an example of that, one of the roles that I would play was like, people-pleasing Pauline. When you can become aware of all of that stuff, and name that thing, identify that thing, you're able to step out of it a little bit, and separate yourself from it, because up to this point, you've identified as that. When you can just start to separate from it, you realize that's not who you truly are.
Step 5: Step Up
The step after that is step five and I call it step it. It's where people typically start to try to change, but they're missing all of those steps that come first, right? When you're at this level, then you're aware of the stories. It's time to step up and take accountability for making a change.
This is where you can finally start to, for real, make a change, and shift, which is the next step.
Step 6: Shift
The last step is to shift. Here you create a new story, because when you create that new story and that new identity, your actions flow from there, and then you start to get different results.
Step 7: Sustain It
The final step is to sustain it. Part of sustaining is you learn a simple daily system that you can use and take with you for the rest of your life, because we're human, and junk still will come up in our heads.
It gives you a way to manage that as it comes up, and continue to move forward, and realize that all that old stuff is just a story. It's just a perception. We don't have to live from it. It's not who you really are and you can live from this new thing.
About Leanne
Leanne Chesser is a courage coach and mindset specialist. She helps female entrepreneurs get out of their own way (the fear, self-sabotage, and self-talk that keeps them stuck) so they can stop hiding, share their message and ultimately get more clients and customers.
Freebie | Facebook | Instagram
Resources
- Episode 86: My Top Tips for Running an Organized Virtual Summit
- Episode 124: Manage Your Time to Launch a Virtual Summit as a Side Hustler
- Summit Host Hangout Facebook group
Lack of Time as a Symptom of Fear
Time management and organization are often a symptom of the fear. We try and attack it at the behavioral level. We know we need to deal with the fear symptoms, and we try, but it doesn't work because all that underlying stuff that's at the root isn't being dealt with.
Then we just feel more frustrated. We feel more stuck. We start to feel worse about ourselves, and like we're never going to get out of this loop of stuckness, I call it.
All this is created in our subconscious minds, and it directs the narrative that's going on in our heads, that chit-chat, that self-talk that's in our heads about how we're not good enough. Then that directs our physiology, so we have feelings, and physical symptoms like fear symptoms that then dictate our actions, or our non-actions, and that's where we get our results.
Then that feeds back into the narrative, and it's this cycle of stuckness that just keeps going around and around until you actually deal with it at that underlying level.
Create Sustainable Results and Move Forward With Your Goals
When I work with people, what I do is I help them become aware of, and then deconstruct, all that stuff that's going on in the subconscious, and in your self-talk. We peel that away and then create a new cycle, which I call the cycle of sustainable success.
There's the cycle of stuckness that I just talked about, but the opposite of that is when you change what's in the subconscious, you have a new narrative in your head, you create a new story, and then you have a different physiology, different physical symptoms, and feelings from which you act.
At that point, you can then act in the way that you want to be acting.
- You can host the summit.
- You can go live.
- You can hit "post" on that controversial post.
- Whatever it might be for you.
Then you get different results, and it again feeds that narrative, and it goes around, and around in an ever progressing growth cycle.
Leanne's Step-by-Step Philosophy of Change Process
In the checklist, I outline a seven-step process, and it's based on a philosophy of change. That philosophy of change is acceptance, awareness, accountability, and then adaptability. The seven steps in the checklist kind of flow from that.
Step 1: Say It
Step one is called, "Say it," and I'll explain what I mean by that. We all have stuff that happens to us in our lives. We have things that influence us, and things that we experience in our lives, and from all of that we form perceptions, or stories, our interpretations in our head about what those things mean, who we are, how the world works, and where we fit in the world.
Then from there, we form beliefs and then expectations of ourselves. All of that is what plays into that self-talk narrative in our heads, and so the very first thing is to accept that everything is a perception at work.
All my steps start with S, and so that's why I'm calling it, "Say it," so we have to say, or accept, that everything is a perception, and that's where it starts. Just becoming aware of that process and that everything that we've experienced, or seen, or heard, we've made an interpretation of which may, or may not be accurate.
Step 2: See It
The next step is to see it. To see your own version of that, because that process happens for everybody. Each of us has our own particular perceptions. They become aware of what those are, what your own stories are, and that's a large portion of the work that I do with people is to dig into that stuff, and figure out what's going on for you specifically.
That's the start of the awareness piece, which is becoming aware of your own stories.
Step 3: Specifically Identify
The next step after that is to specifically identify, and listen to those stories. They speak to us every day in multiple ways. We can hear it in our thoughts, we can hear it in our feelings, we can hear it in our physical symptoms; such as clenched in our jaw, or tense in our shoulders, things like that. And we can see it in our behavior.
When we become aware of and tuned into listening for those things, then we can get more clarity around what's really going on, and what those stories are, so that we can move to the next step.
Step 4: Spot It
The next step is to spot it. You spot or identify the roles you play when you're living in those stories. I guess as an example of that, one of the roles that I would play was like, people-pleasing Pauline. When you can become aware of all of that stuff, and name that thing, identify that thing, you're able to step out of it a little bit, and separate yourself from it, because up to this point, you've identified as that. When you can just start to separate from it, you realize that's not who you truly are.
Step 5: Step Up
The step after that is step five and I call it step it. It's where people typically start to try to change, but they're missing all of those steps that come first, right? When you're at this level, then you're aware of the stories. It's time to step up and take accountability for making a change.
This is where you can finally start to, for real, make a change, and shift, which is the next step.
Step 6: Shift
The last step is to shift. Here you create a new story, because when you create that new story and that new identity, your actions flow from there, and then you start to get different results.
Step 7: Sustain It
The final step is to sustain it. Part of sustaining is you learn a simple daily system that you can use and take with you for the rest of your life, because we're human, and junk still will come up in our heads.
It gives you a way to manage that as it comes up, and continue to move forward, and realize that all that old stuff is just a story. It's just a perception. We don't have to live from it. It's not who you really are and you can live from this new thing.
About Leanne
Leanne Chesser is a courage coach and mindset specialist. She helps female entrepreneurs get out of their own way (the fear, self-sabotage, and self-talk that keeps them stuck) so they can stop hiding, share their message and ultimately get more clients and customers.
Freebie | Facebook | Instagram
Resources
- Episode 86: My Top Tips for Running an Organized Virtual Summit
- Episode 124: Manage Your Time to Launch a Virtual Summit as a Side Hustler
- Free Masterclass: 3-Part Framework to Triple Your Monthly Revenue with a Virtual Summit (while building your list for free)
- Summit Host Hangout Facebook group
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